Marriage: Mr Jatt vs. Me

Me:
I am not a fan of arrange marriages at all! I believe you have to find and get to know one another before you meet and think hmmm there nice...ill marry you. I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with being introduced to someone and then you go out and get to know then before you decided whether their marriage material but it’s the forced arranged marriages I do not agree with. Love marriages are more common as Mr Jatt states but I also have to make the point that you will always have a negative person in your family regardless and sometimes you have to be selfish in order to live your own happy life.

Mr Jatt:
Traditionally it is considered wrong but these marriages occur more nowadays, I believe it should not be engaged in if there is a chance of families falling out then you should not start these kinds of relationships in the beginning. Your parents gave you your upbringing and provided for you and the least you can do is respect your parent’s wishes.

Me:
As we are in a westernized society our thinking is not so ruled as it was traditionally. Obviously out of religion marriages are considered wrong but I am a sucker for love, I think that if you do meet someone who is a different race, why is this so wrong? It is you that has to live your life and wake up seeing your partners face in the morning. I understand the respect one should have for their parents but also you need to be content and happy with whom you are in love with. Parents should guide and protect you, not rule your life.

Mr Jatt:
I don’t think marring out of cast should be a big issue, in the older generations it was important to keep within the cast system but in modern society casts are more often than not irrelevant within marriage. There is also more tolerance within marrying out of cast in modern day.

Me:
For once I actually agree with Mr Jatt, out of cast marriages should not be an issue at all. It’s hard enough to find the ‘perfect’ Asian partner let alone having to worry about their cast!

Mr Jatt:
I think it’s irresponsible if you don’t have a abdicate support and the ability to provide for a child.

Me:
Yet again Mr Jatt is on point! A child is a huge responsibility; you need to be physically, mentally and emotionally prepared. I know there are many single parents out there who do a fantastic job but within the Asian community it is difficult to get the full support one may need if to give birth out of wedlock.

Mr Jatt:
If there is a child in the relationship the divorce can be avoided, there must have been a reason to marry in the first place. A divorce affects children so you need to work at the marriage to make it survive. Divorce is frowned upon within the Asian culture which also makes it more difficult.

Me:
I believe many things lead to divorce, I do not think a couple should stay together just for the children’s sake as children have a strong instinct and can sense a break down in a relationship. You should work at your marriage and I do think divorce can be avoided; marriage is like a job you have to work at it to make it successful. Yes divorce is frowned upon within the Indian culture but I am a strong believer that no one should have to suffer in silence and be unhappy.

Mr Jatt:
I think as long as the other partner in the relationship is aware then there is no problem with bigamy, there can be issues which lead to this for example; if there is a lack of needs (bedroom) then you can remain with your partner but still seek physical satisfaction elsewhere as long as your partner knows about it.

Me:
I do not believe in bigamy at all, if one wants more than one partner then clearly he/she is not content in their relationship and that is a problem. I am traditional when it comes to classic love! Love should be between two people and three is just a crowed, let alone four, five and six!